Tips for Caregivers: Dealing with Anger

Tips for Caregivers: Dealing with Anger; Practical ways of helping you care for a person with memory loss and confusion.

People with memory loss and confusion sometimes become agitated, angry or violent. These behaviors can be very hard on caregivers and may even become dangerous. The following tips are designed to help you avoid and defuse angry outbursts.

  1. Remember that anger is a symptom:

*Try not to take angry outbursts personally.

*Remember that anger is often the result of loss of control or frustration.

*Look for early signs of frustration, such as fidgeting. Try to distract the person before violent outbursts occur.

2. Respond calmly:

*Respond to anger and outbursts in a calm and direct manner.

*Make eye contact. Speak in clear, short, easy-to-understand sentences.

*Approach the person slowly and from the front.

3. Look for physical causes:

*Check for pain, illness or constipation. These can cause frustration and anger.

*Have a doctor check for problems with vision or hearing that may cause confusion.

*Some medications can cause anxiety, hallucination or paranoia.

* Find out if medication may decrease symptoms.

4. Avoid Confusion:

*Limit choices that cause confusion.

*Avoid situations with a lot of noise, activity and people.

*Do the same things at the same time each day.

5. Plan for quiet times:

*Make sure the person is getting enough sleep.

*Alternate quiet times with other activities.

*Try listening to soft music or reading aloud.

6. Reduce Stress:

*Notice if the person is acting lost, confused or frightened. Calmly reassure him or her.

* Take a break if you are feeling angry or frustrated. The person may react to your mood.

*Plan stressful activities such as bathing for when the person is relaxed.

*Allow plenty of time for all activities and give clear, step-by-step directions.

*Try a daily walk to reduce stress.

*Provide soothing objects such as stuffed animals.

7. Assess Danger:

*Make sure the person cannot hurt him or herself.

*Try moving five steps back from the person to defuse the anger.

*Avoid holding or restraining the person. This may make the situation worse.

*If possible, avoid an upsetting situation or lead the person away from it.

*Try to distract the person with a favorite food or activity.

8. Keep yourself safe:

*If the person is violent, make sure you are safe. If necessary, stay out of reach or leave the room to avoid getting hurt.

*Call friends, family, neighbors or your doctor for help.

*If violent episodes are repeated, make an emergency plan to keep you and the person safe.

*If you feel unsafe or threatened, call 911 or your local emergency number.

9. Evaluate Episodes:

*After a violent episode, do not remind or blame the person. He or she may have forgotten what happened.

*Look at what caused the problem. See if there is any way to avoid the situation in the future.

*Remember that by responding calmly, you can sometimes help avoid outbursts.

10. Create a calm and safe home:

*Reduce clutter in the home. Provide good lighting to lessen confusion caused by shadows.

*Avoid changing living environments and caregivers when possible.

*When a change or move is necessary, include familiar objects in the new home.

*Try to make changes gradually.

**This pamphlet is not a substitute for professional medical care. If you have questions or concerns, please talk with a health care provider.

This was written by Mardi Richmond for Journeyworks Publishing.

P.O. Box 8466

Santa Cruz, CA  95061

**This information was taken directly from the pamphlets provided by Journeyworks Publishing to help caregivers.

Disclaimer: I have not used the methods provided in this pamphlet and please consult with a doctor before taking any new steps in caregiving.

 

 

 

 

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About jwatrel

I am a free-lance writer and Blogger. I am the author of the book "Firehouse 101" (IUniverse.com 2005) part of trilogy of books centered in New York City. My next book "Love Triangles" is finished being edited and should be ready for release in the Fall. My latest book, "Dinner at Midnight", a thriller is on its last chapter. My long awaited book explains the loss of the 2004 Yankee game to Boston. I work as a Consultant, Adjunct College Professor, Volunteer Fireman and Ambulance member and Blogger. I have a blog site for caregivers called 'bergencountycaregiver', a step by step survival guide to all you wonderful folks taking care of your loved ones, a walking project to walk every block, both sides, of the island of Manhattan "MywalkinManhattan" and discuss what I see and find on the streets of New York and three sites to accompany it. One is an arts site called "Visiting a Museum", where I showcase small museums, historical sites and parks that are off the beaten track both in Manhattan and outside the city to cross reference with "MywalkinManhattan" blog site. Another is "DiningonaShoeStringNYC", featuring small restaurants I have found on my travels in this project, that offer wonderful meals for $10.00 and under. So be on the lookout for updates on all three sites and enjoy 'MywalkinManhattan'. The third is my latest site, "LittleShoponMainStreet", which showcases all the unique and independent shops that I have found on my travels throughout and around Manhattan. I have started two new blog sites for the fire department, one "EngineOneHasbrouck HeightsFireDepartmentnj" for the Hasbrouck Heights Fire Department to discuss what our Engine Company is doing and the other is "BergenCountyFireman'sHomeAssociation" for the Bergen County Fireman's Association, which fire fighters from Bergen County, NJ, go to the Fireman's Home in Boonton, NJ to bring entertainment and cheer to our fellow brother fire fighters quarterly.
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1 Response to Tips for Caregivers: Dealing with Anger

  1. jwatrel says:

    To all my readers: Take a deep breath and relax!

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