Mind Hacking Alert: A young adult’s guide to recognizing undue influence and resisting abusive relationships

Mind Hacking Alert: A young adult’s guide to recognizing undue influence and resisting abusive relationships

Think mind-hacking can’t happen to you? Think again!

You’re already at risk for mind-hacking because of your age. The part of the brain that’s responsible for emotions, judgement, decision-making, planning and impulse control-the prefrontal cortex-is not fully mature until around age 25. That doesn’t mean you’re stupid-only that you have to be extra smart around mind-hackers. You’re most likely to fall for mind-hacking when you are:

*Insecure about your future.

*Stressed out about your health or looks

*Under pressure to get good grades or a job

*Worried about tuition or other expenses

*Feelings lonely or unsure about fitting in

*Anxious about making new friends

*Questioning your sexual identify

*Sad about a breakup; a divorce, illness or death in the family or another loss

*Living away from home for the first time

*Nearing a graduation or have just graduated

*Searching for spiritual direction or a new church/temple

Mind-hackers are most harmful when they do any of things:

*Magnify your fears or insecurities

*Fuel feelings of guilt or shame

*Isolate you by convincing you to cut off your family, friends and others in your support network

*Press you to leave your home or quit school

*Intimidate you to stop asking questions

*Take control of your finances

*Force you to commit crimes

How can you spot a mind-hacker?

Just as computer viruses use deception to avoid detection, so do mind-hackers. Mind-hackers can seem like the kindest, most affectionate people you’re ever met. They can:

*Pretend to be your new ‘best-friend’ or your ‘true love’

*Come across as an ordinary family, welcoming you into theirs

*Masquerade as club, self-help group or religion

*”Love bomb” you-repeating flatter you and pay you an unusual amount of attention

*Lure you with sex or gift after knowing you for only a short time

*Claim they have “all the answers” to whatever might be troubling you

*Insist that they are the only ones who can truly understand and guide you

From there thy may:

*Oblige you to schedule all your activities around them

*Restrict your access to media and other objective sources of information

*Check in with you excessively, even late at night or when they know you’re busy and expect you to do the same

*Label those you previously trusted and loved as ‘negative’, ‘contaminated’, ‘toxic’ or ‘unenlightened’

*Position themselves as your new family

*Insist that you stop communicating with or keep secrets from others outside the group

*Tell you that thinking for yourself interferes with finding happiness or with finding happiness or ‘truth’

*Disrupt your eating and/or sleeping habits

*Trivialize or make you give up your social, academic, recreational, religious, political or other activities that are important to you

*Pressure you into recruiting new ‘friends’/members

*Bad-mouth those who drop out of the group

*Shun you, make you feel worthless or physically hurt you if you raise questions, express doubts or try to disagree

These tactics increase the mind-hackers undue influence over you, emotionally manipulative you, short-circuit your ability to think critically and undermine your relationship with you family and friends so you become dependent on the mind-hackers.

The Spectrum of Influence: there are various degrees of social influence all around you. Learning to recognize them is key to protecting yourself from exploitative relationships.

Safe to Continue:

*Nurtures your independence.

*Respects your other relationships and interests

*Encourages access to information

*Leaves you in control, of your choices

Caution-Early signs of mind-hacking:

*Disregards your personal boundaries

*Pressures your thoughts, feelings and behavior

*Begins to isolate you

*Leaves you feeling confused

Danger! Undue Influence:

*Fuels fears

*Controls your time and keeps you isolated from others

*Demands unquestioning commitment

*Leaves you obligated to get permission before making decisions

The transition from adolescence to adulthood is exciting.

Increased independence feels great but it can be scary too. It’s normal to feel swamped with new responsibilities and decisions. And that makes it especially important to be on guard against people or groups that might take advantage of you inexperience or insecurities to gain an undue amount of influence over you-to override your free will and run your life. can be hacked, so can your mind through undue influence. Just as the computer that you rely on to help you do your homework and keep in touch with the world around you can be hacked, so can your mind through undue influence. Like a computer virus, mind-hacking can corrupt memories and create false ones.

Just as the computer that you rely on to help you do your homework and keep in touch with the world around you can be hacked, so you can your mind through undue influence. Like a computer virus, mind-hacking can corrupt memories and create false ones.

Disguising their cruel intentions in a friendly way, con artists, gangs, pimps, destructive cults, sexual abusers and other predators use mind-hackers can exploit you into giving up your best friends, your family, your favorite activities, even your future.

Reality check-How to prevent mind-hackers from taking control of your life:

*Be skeptical of anyone you’ve recently met who lavishes you with attention, compliments you excessively, monopolizes all your time or tries to alienate you from your trusted family or friends.

*Don’t reveal information about your (or your family’s) medical history, fiances or very personal matters to someone you’ve known for only a short period of time.

*Never go away with an organization unless you’ve thoroughly checked it out.

*Verify any information you’re given with an independence authoritative source.

If you think you’re being targeted by a mind-hacker…

Get advice from someone you’ve known for a long time who is not involved with the person or group that you’re unsure about, such as a relative, friend, counselor, teacher, law enforcement official or member of the clergy.

If you have a friend or relative who’s been mind-hacked, don’t give up on them. Do your best to stay in touch and remind them they’re still important to you. Team up with the person’s family and old friends to figure out how you might be able to help.

For additional information, go to:



NJ Safe & Sound

P.O. Box 494

Teaneck, NJ  07666

Disclaimer: This information is taken directly from the Mind-Hacking Alert pamphlet and I give them full credit for it. Please, read this over carefully! This is easy to fall for for anyone.


About jwatrel

I am a free-lance writer and Blogger. I am the author of the book "Firehouse 101" (IUniverse.com 2005) part of trilogy of books centered in New York City. My next book "Love Triangles" is finished being edited and should be ready for release in the Fall. My latest book, "Dinner at Midnight", a thriller is on its last chapter. My long awaited book explains the loss of the 2004 Yankee game to Boston. I work as a Consultant, Adjunct College Professor, Volunteer Fireman and Ambulance member and Blogger. I have a blog site for caregivers called 'bergencountycaregiver', a step by step survival guide to all you wonderful folks taking care of your loved ones, a walking project to walk every block, both sides, of the island of Manhattan "MywalkinManhattan" and discuss what I see and find on the streets of New York and three sites to accompany it. One is an arts site called "Visiting a Museum", where I showcase small museums, historical sites and parks that are off the beaten track both in Manhattan and outside the city to cross reference with "MywalkinManhattan" blog site. Another is "DiningonaShoeStringNYC", featuring small restaurants I have found on my travels in this project, that offer wonderful meals for $10.00 and under. So be on the lookout for updates on all three sites and enjoy 'MywalkinManhattan'. The third is my latest site, "LittleShoponMainStreet", which showcases all the unique and independent shops that I have found on my travels throughout and around Manhattan. I have started two new blog sites for the fire department, one "EngineOneHasbrouck HeightsFireDepartmentnj" for the Hasbrouck Heights Fire Department to discuss what our Engine Company is doing and the other is "BergenCountyFireman'sHomeAssociation" for the Bergen County Fireman's Association, which fire fighters from Bergen County, NJ, go to the Fireman's Home in Boonton, NJ to bring entertainment and cheer to our fellow brother fire fighters quarterly.
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1 Response to Mind Hacking Alert: A young adult’s guide to recognizing undue influence and resisting abusive relationships

  1. jwatrel says:

    Please read through this carefully. It can happen to anyone.

    Liked by 1 person

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